Getting back on the dating scene can be hard when you’ve been through the rough and tumble. One thing is for certain, today’s dating scene surely doesn’t resemble the one our grandparents described to us. Dates are more expensive, people are less romantic, and how the heck do you date during a pandemic anyway?
If you’re tired of feeling like a clutz in the dating world and being alone in spite of the abundance of fish in the sea, then it’s time to get your swagger back. You may have lost your balance on the dating carousel, but these tips will help you regain your footing.
Embrace your body.
Not every man is going to look like the guy on the cover of “Men’s Health,” nor will every woman look like a “Sports Illustrated” swimsuit model. You need to have realistic expectations for yourself and prospective dates.
If you don’t have the perfect figure, then don’t get down on yourself. The more you love your curves, then the more other people will love them too. Confidence is sexy, but being self-conscious about your figure could bring attention to the parts of your body that you’re the most insecure about.
Rather than trying to minimize your curves, celebrate them with plus size lingerie, sexy sleepwear, and hot new swimwear. When you feel sexy, you’ll notice that other people find you sexy as well.
Embracing your body doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t take steps to improve your figure. You should eat right and exercise regularly for your health’s sake and not just to get the figure you want. However, when you do get that figure, your confidence will stick to you like a tattoo.
Treat yourself to a makeover.
When was the last time you got all glammed-up? If you said “Umm” before answering, then the correct answer is too long. One of the best ways to restore your confidence is to get a makeover. You’ll be surprised what a new hairdo, some makeup, and some magnetic lashes can do for your self-image. Book a trip to the nearest spa for a day out with you and your girlfriends — a little pampering and self-care go a long way.
Take some glam shots.
The makeover process isn’t complete until you do a little showing off. After your makeover, your next date should be with a photographer.
Now that you’re feeling like a model, it’s time to do some modeling. Post your photos to your social media page and feel free to bask in the ambiance of your own beauty as the compliments roll in like a tidal wave.
Try online dating.
When you fall into a dating rut, you have to be willing to try new things. If you’ve never given online dating a shot before, then there’s no time like now to jump into the online dating pool.
One of the best things about online dating is that you get to meet people who share your common interests and through chatting, you can get to know them before you meet them. The key to online dating is to be open and honest. It’s like any other form of dating — you could win or you could lose, but you’ll never know if you don’t try.
Get professional help.
Getting over past relationships is difficult, but it’s a must if you want to be happy again. If hurt from your past relationships is hampering your dating life, then you should talk to a therapist about it.
Relationships that are physically or verbally abusive have a way of sticking with you and sabotaging your future happiness. Talking with a therapist can help you to identify issues from your past relationship that may be affecting your happiness and mental health today.